The devastation I felt at the funeral cannot be overstated. This hit below the belt, and I felt I was minimized.
The 26 years we spent together and the last few years of his sickness were erased in an instant… I was nothing
My family and daughter were there (of course), and this is what my daughter posted in social media that day.
What Is Love?
Love is standing by someone even when it isn’t easy. It’s loving them even when it’s difficult. Love is constant and requires sacrifice and loyalty. Love stays through health and sickness. It remains when it’s inconvenient. Love is soiled laundry, doctors’ visits and spoon feedings. Love looks like tendons being torn from catching your loved one; watching them decline and choosing to lift them with courage instead of giving into fear; letting go of a career to care for them. Love is watching your loved ones last breaths, holding their face and telling them “it’s okay, I’m here and I love you.” Comforting them until the end, only collapsing in grief once they had gone.
Mom, you have shown me what love looks like throughout your marriage and most strongly these last 5 years. Only those that have not seen it would not acknowledge it. I’m sorry you have to go on without your sweetheart. Please know that he loves you so much and we love you too. We will be right here to help you through it.
Thank you Amber you are such an amazing daughter, an amazing mother, and an amazing person.
I Love You