Living In Truth

Personal Stories of Triumph, Pain and Everything In-between…

Signs of hope

I am sitting here working in my office and I hear a little bird chirp. It is September and that usually doesn’t happen until the spring.

It makes me feel happy like when there is a long cold winter and the snow has melted – and the signs of spring start showing up.

I always feel like spring is a reminder of the renewal of life. A sign that everything is going to be OK…

Maybe the bird is to remind me of that – I am in such a sad transition in my life.

Is it a sign – everything will be OK in the end ?

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Communicating with someone who has dementia is not easy – I have learned a lot  this last week.

My husband, brother and I went to my social worker last week. I just love Theresa;
she is so knowledgeable and precisely knows how to talk with my husband.

She gave us some tips on communicating with people who have dementia. I have learned a lot from the hand-out she supplied us. . I have watched  my husband’s Dementiafamily when we are around and they act like my husband is not even in the room – so upsetting. Talk about him and around him like he is invisible

People who are suffering from this illness need validation – it is so important that you are listening and understand. It can decrease the intensity of the conflicts and is good for your relationship.

How to validate:

  1. Make eye contact with them, actively listen – nod your head when they talk to you.
  2. State their feelings descriptively without passing judgement “ it looks like your upset” or “you have a sad look on your face”
  3. Respond in a way that takes them seriously – if they want to be alone for a little while say “OK,” walk away and let them calm down, if they are crying, give them a tissue, etc.
  4. Show tolerance and patience: Their behavior makes sense to them given his or her life circumstances, even if you do not approve of the behavior itself.

The next post will be about the six levels of validation. I hope this help you in coping with anyone in your life who does have dementia…

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