This Recliner Really Helps

Getting a power lift recliner is worth every penny – it gives my husband comfort and helps me as the caregiver.

One of the CNA’s suggested that I get a recliner it would be much better for him to sit in and when he gets tired, he can snooze until I have Recliner - Power Lifthelp getting him up. Well, why didn’t I think of that!

Thank goodness for those that come in and help – they are a god sent. It has gotten so hard to get my husband up to a standing position that it is a real struggle. Since I have hurt my arm, I have people come in at night to help me put him to bed.

We now have what is called a power lift recliner so it goes into a standing position it is so helpful and when he is tired he just lays back…

If you have someone who is limited in mobility and you want something comfortable for them to be in when they get up – I do suggest this power lift recliner whole heartedly.

I wish I had thought of this months ago.

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Celebrating – Make Memories

Celebrating life while you can…

I put on some Punjabi song videos for my husband, and it immediately reminded me of the life we once had. Sometimes you don’t appreciate it until it is gone. The dancing, parties and delicious Indian food – we would travel all over the United States to attend weddings, graduations, anniversary’s. The women who came to those parties dressed like Bollywood movie stars. Gorgeous Sarees (Indian dress) beautiful vibrant colors, some sequined, celebrate lifesome shimmer with threads of gold or silver, 24-Karat gold bangles, necklaces and earrings.

I didn’t wear the traditional dresses – I felt like that would be phony somehow, but I do have many beautiful dresses that I would wear for those occasions – I am sure these women spent hundreds of dollars for one outfit mine were around $100.00 which for me is still a pretty penny for me.

And boy do they know how to party – dancing all night long and celebrating for whatever occasion gave them joy – that is not an exaggeration, I would want to go back to my room around one and that was early.

We also use to hold New Year’s Eve parties and people would come from everywhere. We would have traditional singers, and everything that goes with it. One of these event’s people were at my house until six in the morning..

Yes, my husband thrived on the energy of celebrating life – having  parties and going to them. He is an extrovert, and I am more of an introvert so you can see how he would drag me out of my shell.

That is one of the saddest things – he is now stuck in the house people really don’t stop by. I think they don’t realize just because my husband has dementia doesn’t mean he doesn’t enjoy their company.

I am really going to miss that lifestyle – the people and the glorious food, but most of all I miss my husband who brought such vibrancy and celebration into my life.

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The Reality of Being a Caregiver.

Being a full time caregiver isn’t for the faint of heart.

I have really been having problems  lately. I broke my toe had some water on the tile floor, and I went flying OUCH. Then I strained my arm went swimming, and as I walked down the stairs, I was holding to the railing, and my feet went out from under me leaving me with  pulled muscles on my left arm. I am left handed – but the crème da la crème is when I was helping my husband walk into the bathroom and he started to fall – I just automatically tried to catch him and I heard a POP in upper left arm. Now it looks like I have some deformation it hurts when I stretch it or pick something up. I cannot at this point put my husband in bed or take him out pain in the A**.

My daughter and brother keep telling me I need to go to the Dr. because if the tendons are tore, I may need them re-attached. That’s all I need is to have surgery on my arm – I just want to wait Caregiveruntil it is healed, but now they are scaring me. I don’t want to waste the little time I have off going to the Dr., and I feel like I will be fine…

But what if…

Then my son talked to me and told me it needed attention now, or I could have permanent damage. That is that I decided to go and get it looked at my family Dr. wasn’t in, and I have limited time because Jayne is here on Mondays, so I went to the Instacare, the Dr.  took x-rays to make sure I didn’t have any broken bones or fractures. I didn’t (which I knew) they gave me a card for an orthopedic sport Dr. I called him up, and I got in right away.

To make a long story short I ended up tearing the tendon it was completely detached from my elbow. I saw a sports orthopedic surgeon who said he had only seen a couple of women in his whole practice that this happened to… It figures, I would need surgery to reattach the tendon I would be in a cage/cast for six weeks and therapy for six weeks no lifting, etc.

I chose not to have it, the time I would take to heal would be too long; it is important I take care of my husband. He has to stay at home, he is so happy and well taken care of. We will see in the long term what difference it will make I can change my mind within the next two – three weeks. After that it would be much harder to re-attach.

I didn’t realize how physically challenging being a caregiver was.

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